The key to fighting bitterness is forgiveness. When you forgive, you let the other person off the hook for their wrongs. You can hand your hurt over to God, who will handle it with perfect justice. Then you can step into freedom instead of being held in the bondage of bitterness.
The person who wronged you doesn’t need to apologize or make amends to you for forgiveness to work its healing power. Forgiveness is an act of your will. It doesn’t require any contact with your offender. It is simply an act of faith between you and God.
Let’s say that the person who hurt you was your parent. Their wrongs may have had a negative impact on your entire life. You may be nursing a grudge against your parent, even if he or she is deceased. By forgiving your parent, you release the desire to get what you never had. You can surrender your hurt over to God, who will take your bitterness and replace it with peace.
To completely overcome the effects of bitterness in your life, it’s beneficial to meditate on Scriptures regarding bitterness. Once you learn what the Bible has to say about this problem, you can guard yourself against falling into the same traps as before. You can choose a better path with God’s help.
“Therefore I will not keep silent; I will speak out in the anguish of my spirit, I will complain in the bitterness of my soul.“– Job 7:11
Job suffered great losses though he deserved none of them. He decided to vent his bitterness to God instead of holding it in. This choice is wise for you too. When you vent bitterness in safe ways, you can find healing.
“Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up.” – Psalm 71:20
Every person has difficult seasons that can feel bitter. But God promises to give us restoration. He wants us to place our hope in him so we can overcome our bitterness. He doesn’t want us to stay stuck in our troubles but to move forward with his guidance.
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” – Ephesians 4:31
This verse makes it clear that bitterness is a big problem. God wants us to remove it from our lives so it does not develop into bigger problems. Work hard to remove it, and you’ll be in God’s will.
“See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” – Hebrews 12:15
If you have a bitter root, it affects others whether you see it or not. By removing that bitter root, you preserve peace and faith among your relatives, friends, coworkers, and others. It’s worth the fight not only for you but for everyone else who is involved.