Psalm 77:1-3, “I cry aloud to God, aloud to God, and he will hear me. In the day of my trouble I seek the Lord; in the night my hand is stretched out without wearying; my soul refuses to be comforted. When I remember God, I moan; when I meditate, my spirit faints.

When we are facing bitter circumstances in our lives, we need to quickly bring them to the Lord. The way that we do this is through biblical lament. Laments are largely found in the Psalms, and many scholars believe that about 1/3 of the psalms are laments.

A biblical lament is a choice to speak directly to the Lord about our bitter circumstances. There are four characteristics of lament that honor God. Biblical lament:
• Expresses faith in God‘s character…
• Portrays heartfelt concerns and questions that are brutally honest…
• Brings bold requests before God…
• Concludes with a commitment to trust God and praise Him no matter what…

Learning to lament is an essential step in processing bitter circumstances. Therefore, consider to: Talk to God about pain:
Confusion, exhaustion, and disappointment can cause us to retreat from the one who knows our sorrows. Lament talks to God even if it’s messy. This requires faith. Silence is easier but unhealthy. Lament prays through hardship.

Complain:
The second step in lament candidly talks to God about what is wrong. Biblical complaint vocalizes circumstances that do not seem to fit with God’s character or his purposes. While the psalmist knows God is in control, there are times when it feels like he’s not. Biblical complaining is not venting your sinful anger. It’s merely telling God about your struggles. Instead of stuffing our struggles, lament gives us permission to verbalize the tension. (Psalm 13)

Ask
Lament seeks more than relief; it yearns for the deliverance that fits with God’s character. Godly lamenters keep asking even when the answer is delayed. Lament affirms the applicability of God’s promises by asking again and again for divine help.

Trust
Confidence in God’s trustworthiness is the destination of all laments. Laments help us through suffering by directing our hearts to make the choice—often daily— to trust in God’s purposes hidden behind the pain. Laments lead us through our sorrows so that we can trust God and praise him.